Here I am. Unedited and unfiltered. 32, mother of two, makeup free, stretch marks and all.
I wasn’t blessed with brows so I had them tattooed. Eyelashes, not many, if any. I haven’t tried botox or facial fillers and Im not saying I wont. I have a tiny bust and I see a potential boob-job on the horizon. I don’t fit the standard body mould or standard dress size. I have a uniquely large rib cage and at 5’2″ I fall into the petite category. Im also still coming to terms with my body post-babies and then theres the matter of ageing, I ain’t no spring-chicken.
But alas, Im okay with the above.
We absorb so many confusing messages of what beauty is suppose to look like, especially through social media. I find the fitness and health industry a real put-off at the moment and its mostly because the industry is oversaturated with consumerism. One product is released and the next month the new best thing is dropped. Much the same with the fashion and beauty industry. While health and fitness is an important step to feeling good about yourself, I believe true body confidence is a lot less about what we actually look like and more about how we feel about ourselves.
Can we really, truly have body confidence? If I can, you can. I say this with all my heart. If you have read my ‘How Motherhood Saved My Life Post‘ you are aware of my battle with a chronic eating disorder and how being a victim of sexual abuse distorted my views and feelings about myself in the most painful way. Ive been to some pretty dark places in life and if I can return from those pits I don’t see why you cant.
Curbing my mindset and getting off the comparison-train were my first steps to attaining better body confidence. For example, I have post-baby stretch marks. Rather than dwelling on my body’s exterior I am grateful for the ability to carry children, knowing there are others who cant. Shifting my focus to being ‘healthy’ rather than being ‘slim’ was major key and helped me develop a healthier attitude towards exercise, which in the past was something I absolutely loathed. Another step toward body acceptance was understanding my body shape, particularly after giving birth the second time around. It took a bit of time learning how to style my new shape and once I got the hang of it, it helped me view myself in a more positive light.
As mentioned above, my body is far from perfect. But I am comfortable in the skin Im in. I, like you, get insecure at times and when my guard is down self-doubt creeps in. Sometimes I feel my social media makes me look a bit superhuman. Im not. I don’t wear makeup everyday, I simply don’t have the time. Im struggling to find the time to sleep let alone spend a good 45 in the mirror. While I am not completely satisfied with my body (Im only human) I am healthy and happy. Being a mum means I have two little boys to live a long life for. They are at the centre of my world so staying alive and well is non-negotiable.
The opportunity to collaborate with Berlei has been an empowering one. I got to show the world today I mean more than my outsides, that I have depth. I encourage you, in your own special way to do the same. Sprinkle that body confidence dust all over the dang-place, go cray. I feel extremely blessed to work with a brand that I not only regularly purchase from but a brand that actually produces great fitting bras that I feel comfortable in. Im wearing a number from the SS16 Berlei Sensation range which is inspired by the fashion trend ‘Ballet Base’. I make all my Berlei purchases from Farmers (I love the Farmers club promotions, you can get really amazing deals on underwear).
This post is a bit ‘spesh’ for me personally. It speaks volumes of my personal growth and if I am being honest Im a wee-bit proud of myself. My journey hasn’t been easy. I sincerely hope this post brings you comfort or you can relate in some way. Please know you are not alone. I got you.